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25 September 2010


Almost all the time we are under control of something or someone. Going through life trying not to miss anything, it is so choking you almost can not breathe. What this person is going to say? , what that person is going to think about this?, drained all your energy and there’s no joy left. You are just a robot going through the same old 'to-do list' day and night.

The pattern of life in each individual has been set up the moment we start having responsibilities. A little at a time, we subject ourselves to almost everything and everyone surrounding us, in order to fulfil the status we are holding. While at work, you are under control of the boss and the working environment (that includes colleagues, timing, people you are dealing with, etc.). While at home, one way or the other, you are under control of the very people you are living with. The repeat-occurrence goes on and on wherever you go.

Is freedom something we have to fight for?

Definitely YES

 Understand this; to ever gain that freedom, you need to start from within. Look at yourself as a person, not a machine and give yourself due respect. It is important that you learn to respect yourself because it is only then that others will respect you. Others do not need to understand or agree with what you do all the time, they just need to respect you as a person and therefore respect your decisions on how you want to live your life.

Here are some ways you can use to build up self-respect and to gain respect from others;

  1. Speak your mind: Thinking too much whether you should open up and speak your mind, you will end up keeping quiet all the time. Before you know it, people start thinking you don’t have a say, or worse, you don’t have a mind of your own. Be very honest when you speak out, remember that you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feeling, you just want to make your point heard. That way, your words will be well-thought out, gentle but firm and honest that it catches attentions as well as commands respect.
  2.  Have your stand: Always base your every action on where you stand. Don’t let emotions take you places where you feel lonely and cold. Be considerate but firm in what you want for your life in any given situation.
  3.   Be yourself: To be able to do this, you need to know exactly who you are and what you want. Compromising can be a tool of peace only when you hold firm to the knowledge of ‘you’ as a person and the length you’re willing to go for the very purpose. Never disregard yourself and be miserable just so others can be happy.
  4.  Take control of your own life: Do all things and duties with your best interest. Be on top of things that concern you. Do not lack in anything or hesitate when it comes to your own affairs, or else someone else will step in and tell you how to live your life.

Freedom comes when you take full control of your life. Get on the driving seat and hold on tight to the steering wheel. When you take charge, others will have no choice but to back off.




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