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22 December 2012

Getting Out of 'Vicious Circle'


Have you ever find yourself in the situation whereby nothing seems to work out? Is it often suspiciously hard to move forward, impossible to go backward, and you find yourself in the fix right at the middle of things lately? If so, it make sense to take a look first 'within' you and see if the real problem rooted there. After you've checked, if nothing found, it might be a good idea to look around and see what is there.

Things are not always very obvious. Most time, when you look at things or people with your eyes alone, you either see what you want to see, or what others want you to see, when in truth, we are living in a much more complicated world with so much more complicated fellow human beings who's, individually, owns specific mix of traits emotionally. Some people wake up every morning feeling refreshed, they are contented and energized by positive mind, while some, being fueled with negative emotions, be it greed, anger, hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, self-obsessiveness, etc, they feel defeated all day long. Do you find yourself in the midst of this latter type of people? They are not always easily identified, but it will help you greatly to take note of these traits to see if you are right in the middle of the wrong circle.;

  • Compulsive liar: Negative mind creates unreal image for themselves as they don't like what's going on in their lives in reality and not ready to make any effort to change it. For example, they can tell you on the phone that they are at work while in reality, unemployed and only lying down in bed at home surfing the net. They will tell you how their kids are being useful in the house, when in truth, they are the ones doing dishes, laundry, and all the house works without being offered any help. etc. They go on and on with lies after lies they can't remember all of them and often make mistakes exposing themselves.
  • Selfish: It is never a good idea to be anywhere near selfish people. They can not and will not add up to your life in any shapes or forms. Their motto is; 'it is me, myself and I.' Their interests are the most important and yours are a no-no. They don't want to see anyone moving forward and will do whatever it takes to keep it that way. Unlike most traits, selfish people are quite easily identified. They are ones who have nothing to offer and never hesitate to show it. 
  • They bring bad luck: Some people with serious jealousy and envious rooted within carry bad spirit wherever they go. With or without knowing it, they make things harder for other people in various ways and circumstances. Be very careful in giving personal information out. Bad spirited people are known to use whatever they know to harm you.
If you find yourself in the midst of one, two, or all of the above kinds, you are in the 'wrong circle'. Get yourself out of there as soon as possible. Make sure you do not accept or take anything from them. Just run for your life. The longer you stay, the harder it will get to set yourself free from negativity. 



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03 September 2012

Lifting Those Who Fall

'If another believer is overcome... help that person.' Galations 6:1
It's okay to confront somebody you believe is in the wrong, but not with a self-righteous attitude. When church leaders insisted a woman '...caught in the act of adultery' be stoned (John 8:4 NLT), Jesus replied, '...let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone' (v. 7 NLT). Ouch! One Christian author writes: 'Are we aware of other people's mistakes because they confided in us, or have we appointed ourselves the 'moral police' to justify examining the blemishes in everyone else's behaviour? Is your goal to restore prodigals, or do you have a hidden agenda to elevate yourself by condemning those around you? I've been confronted twice by other Christians, the first was a red-faced stranger who was furious with me for wearing knee-high leather boots with a short skirt to her church. She called me a 'Jezebel.' The second was a good friend who tenderly pointed out my pride in a specific situation. The name-calling left a bruise on my soul; the compassionate rebuke turned me toward the forgiving arms of our heavenly Father. God alone has the perfect combination of holiness and mercy to stand in judgment of the human heart. The Bible says, 'If another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself.' The only One who was worthy to condemn us, chose instead to pardon us, and in light of our own sinner-saved-by-grace [status]-when the Holy Spirit impresses you to confront someone who's messed up, do it with honesty, compassion and humility.'
Bible in a Year: 1 Chron 4:24 - 5:26Luke 16:1-18Ps 119:105-112?Pr 18:10;
                                       Source: The Word For Today - www.ucb.co.uk
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09 July 2012

The Receiving End


Most times, are you the one talking o listening? Do you lead conversations or just answer questions? Do people wait on you, or are you always being kept waiting? Do people seems to always get their ways with you at your expense? Do you always say 'yes'?

I believe we all have this kind of experience before. Most times, it was out of being thoughtful, conside.rate towards others, or simply being simple minded. Some of us use these rather bitter experience to 'polish' their approach to people and circumstances, while some being cornered time and time again into that tiny, isolated space where nobody interested in sharing.

How come 'being nice' rarely yeild any respect but the opposite? If you ask me, I would say being taken advantage of has nothing to do with you being nice or nasty. Rather, it has everything to do with how do you see yourself while approaching people and circumstances. If you see yourself nervous or fearful, then that's pretty much what others will see as well.

It is discouraging to be on the receiving end, but this does not have to become your life-long struggling. If you've always been one with so much consideration for others that it started to hurt your well beings, it's now time to put 'you' first and leave the rest to fall in place naturally. Here are some tips to get you started;

1) Do your homework; Before dealing with anything, make sure you know all the information needed, eg.  if you are going after freebies using coupons or vouchers, be sure to read through their terms and conditions as in how, when,  and where before hand so that no one can tell you otherwise and leave you looking blur and embarrassed. Understanding how things work or get done clears out any self-doubt and prevents you from giving out unsure outlook.

2) Go out more; give yourself opportunity to get use to handling people and situations. Take chances to practice and improve your overall approach to different scenarios and circumstances.

3) Be a profiler; learn about body language and take time to observe others even before they get to talk or come in contact with you. Remember that people do this very same thing so be sure not to give out too much information through your own body language.

Last but not least, remember that you are trying to balance your life out to be a bit happier, not trying to go on a battle with anyone. The most important thing is you know your worth and confident enough to be your best self. Make sure you never changed into a mean person. A little act of kindness every time is what we all need.
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