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29 March 2013

The Ups and Downs, How Focus One Should Be, and Gifts To Random Strangers

Have you ever been so down? Are you thinking right now how and what you could possibly do to turn things around? Are you in some sort of situations where you can't quite tell anyone about, yet in so much need for a helping hand? One thing I can tell you is this; life seems to be all about ups and downs.When things get rough, you kind of ask yourself if there's ever going to be any more 'ups' moment. When that thought come, the only way you could hang on, get by, and eventually get out of whatever difficult situation you might be in right now, is to surrender completely to the only One that is able. When we do that, we focus on Him and way forward, not the problems.

I had a talk with my husband today about how focus one should be, when one find him/herself in trouble. He said the focus should be like when we are driving with the speed of exactly 75 MPH. It is hard to maintain the exact speed all through the journey and keep pressing on, because it needs your full attention.. because it can be dangerous to even turn your eyes away from looking ahead for only a second.. but that is exactly what we need to do, that is how focus we need to be, to get to where we want to go.

This past few years has taught me so much and all the lessons learned are incredibly awakening. Along the way, I find so much joy, understanding and meanings in more things than I could ever imagine I would 5 years ago. I see thing as is, see people as who they are and a lot of times it sadden me. In the process of trying to live, some of us became what we say we wouldn't be. We trade our clear conscience with things in life that doesn't really count.

Inspired by one of the messages on tylerperry.com, 'We Can Do Better', I am now on a mission. I want to do something special, I want to focus on the possibility.. the positive impact of action. I'm spending hours today making these packages from scratch and I am posting ALL of them to random addresses all over the map.

I uses giftastranger.net to randomly picked addresses just to make sure I'm making people's day without any special preferences. I made them all myself and hope whoever gets them will be happy. I know life can be such a pain sometimes, and it happens to everyone of us once in awhile. Hang in there, you are not alone.

God is able. Peace.

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08 March 2013

You are Not a Victim

I woke up this morning and prepared myself to send my boy to school. It usually takes us about 12 minutes walk to reach school everyday. In good days, as in bright, dry and not-so-cold days, walking my son to school is good exercise, but to day we have foggy-rainny weather to deal with. By the time I opened the front door, we looked out the foggy and drizzle scenery, I told my son; "You better walk fast.", while debating with myself whether or not I should take umbrella along. I somehow brushed the umbrella idea off to the side and off we went for our routine walk.

We weren't even half the distance before the rain changed from drizzling to pouring. At that point we couldn't do anything else but kept on walking. My son was wearing coat with hoody attached, so that came in handy. I, on the other hand, was literally soaking wet! I wear glasses, and people with glasses know how annoying it is to have rain falling on their glasses blogging views and all. My hair was so wet it looked as if I have just finished washing it. I saw the mascara I applied carefully earlier dropped on my glasses and wondered how much more of them on my face, and what a fool I would look like.

After my son was safely sent to school, the rain kept pouring down and I decided to stop by the bus stop on the way back, not because I hope the rain will stop but because I was completely frustrated. Right then, I somehow felt sorry for myself and started blaming it on everything, the rain, the long distance walk, even the fog! But even when I don't want to, I had to accept that had I not being so laid back and leave everything to chances, I would have had my umbrella with me and I would have been home now instead of being stuck by the bus stop.

It's funny how one can be in difficult situation solely by self-inflicted.

Now, being caught in the rain and got all wet doesn't really count as 'a difficult situation', but it is a small version of bad decision making, a good example of how things can go wrong when we are not well-prepared for things ahead.

In this case I wasn't a victim, I was the sole cause of the problem.

I talk about rain so much in this post, but it is not at all about rain itself. I share with you a small stuff in life that could change your view as a whole. It is important, where possible, not to look at ourselves as a victim but the very person who can write a whole new page of life however you want your life to be. It is only then we can understand where exactly the problem lies and be able to deal with it sensibly start from within ourselves.
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02 March 2013

Kindness: The Most Beautiful Human Traits There is

I am one of those who would promote 'kindness' as one of the most important human traits any day. Not because I want to be looked at as a good person, it has nothing to do with me, as in, it is not about 'me'. I simply agree with practicing the acts of kindness however small, because there will always be people out there who fight hard battles.

Through observation, I see how much we need kindness in our lives and couldn't quite understand why would it be something so hard to come by if we all needed it so much.

What makes 'kindness' a needle in a haystack?

Putting the obvious aside (selfishness and self-centeredness, to name a few), I wonder if 'fear' can be one of the reasons many people feel reluctant to lend helping hands. Some of us feel uncertain whether or not they should do good or be kind. As strange as it sound, I remember one day long ago when I willingly kept a door open for one very old woman to go through, all she did was given me a look that says; 'what do you think you are doing?', then finally say; "That's alright, you go first.". That was quite an awkward situation stem from pure good intention. What worst was that it left me feeling somewhat guilty for ever tried practicing random acts of kindness. It is as though, I have somehow offended her ability to do things for herself.

For some reasons, we are being stripped off trust we have to give others. We feel we might be looked at as weak, incapable, or powerless. Slowly, we unconsciously gave up hope that the world could actually be a better place to live in and settled for I-am-enough-for-me, and I-don't-need-anybody's-help attitude.

How about 'envy'? This traits pretty much, in itself, prevents some of us to see any good things good deed brings. Envy and jealousy are selfishness dressed in ugly clothes. In nature, envious people leave little room for other people's capability to demonstrate love and kindness, and definitely will not demonstrate love and kindness themselves. Not because they don't believe there is such thing as 'kindness', but they insist on maintaining their tainted minds and that is all that is important to them.

 Whatever the case, wouldn't it be a good idea for all of us to slow down a bit on judging others and give them the benefit of the doubt? Wouldn't it be nice to open up our hearts and see for yourself how good life could be when we embrace love and kindness from ourselves and others? After all, since on our own we are all vulnerable to whatever good or bad circumstances and situations tomorrow brings, we might as well pay it forward, see kindness goes round and amazingly boomerang back to us. That way, together we create a new world filled with fresh perspective, trust and new hopes.

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26 February 2013

Capitalize on the Good

During the past few years, I was given the opportunity to study people in a way I wouldn't have been able to if I were not here. Going through challenges of being far away from home, from what I use to, from my 'comfort zone', I realized how difficult life can be, both at general level and all the other specifics. I've faced with the worst kind of people, had to live with their attitude and rotten minds. I've also experienced the best kind, ones that has never failed to amazed me by their kindness. What do I learn from them all? One thing... to 'capitalize on the good'.

Being happy derives from the mind. Like radio, the mind radiates emotions. Unhappy, negative people is always unhealthy to be with, even for a short while, the same way thoughtful, loving people is wonderful and emotionally therapeutic to be with. Whenever they pay it forward, it goes round and forms beautiful circle of goodness. I 'tab on' this stream of goodness and life has been beautiful so far.

This is, not to say that 'capitalizing on the good' washes away all my problems. It simply makes me look at them in a brighter light and be so much more positive. When I stop thinking of only myself, I have more time and energy to go about dealing with things that are really important.

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