I am one of those who would promote 'kindness' as one of the most important human traits any day. Not because I want to be looked at as a good person, it has nothing to do with me, as in, it is not about 'me'. I simply agree with practicing the acts of kindness however small, because there will always be people out there who fight hard battles.
Through observation, I see how much we need kindness in our lives and couldn't quite understand why would it be something so hard to come by if we all needed it so much.
What makes 'kindness' a needle in a haystack?
Putting the obvious aside (selfishness and self-centeredness, to name a few), I wonder if 'fear' can be one of the reasons many people feel reluctant to lend helping hands. Some of us feel uncertain whether or not they should do good or be kind. As strange as it sound, I remember one day long ago when I willingly kept a door open for one very old woman to go through, all she did was given me a look that says; 'what do you think you are doing?', then finally say; "That's alright, you go first.". That was quite an awkward situation stem from pure good intention. What worst was that it left me feeling somewhat guilty for ever tried practicing random acts of kindness. It is as though, I have somehow offended her ability to do things for herself.
For some reasons, we are being stripped off trust we have to give others. We feel we might be looked at as weak, incapable, or powerless. Slowly, we unconsciously gave up hope that the world could actually be a better place to live in and settled for I-am-enough-for-me, and I-don't-need-anybody's-help attitude.
How about 'envy'? This traits pretty much, in itself, prevents some of us to see any good things good deed brings. Envy and jealousy are selfishness dressed in ugly clothes. In nature, envious people leave little room for other people's capability to demonstrate love and kindness, and definitely will not demonstrate love and kindness themselves. Not because they don't believe there is such thing as 'kindness', but they insist on maintaining their tainted minds and that is all that is important to them.
Whatever the case, wouldn't it be a good idea for all of us to slow down a bit on judging others and give them the benefit of the doubt? Wouldn't it be nice to open up our hearts and see for yourself how good life could be when we embrace love and kindness from ourselves and others? After all, since on our own we are all vulnerable to whatever good or bad circumstances and situations tomorrow brings, we might as well pay it forward, see kindness goes round and amazingly boomerang back to us. That way, together we create a new world filled with fresh perspective, trust and new hopes.